Romantic vs Spiritual

Romantic vs Spiritual

By the way, brothers in Christ, it is not wise to fill your language with religious overtones and impose the dos and don’ts on your partner. Being romantic is not a sin or impure, as some of us think.
Being romantic is about giving vocabulary to your feelings and the ability to self-express your emotions purely and sincerely.

There is a romantic book in the Bible, Songs of Solomon. Most of us brothers browse through it and pick one or two verses about little foxes that spoil the vine and never really pay attention to how Solomon and the Shulamite woman got into that strong bond that it passed to be written as a reference to us in the Holy Scriptures. They were both able to put vocabulary to their feelings for each other and even tried to use nature to describe how strongly they wanted each other.

Solomon was spiritual and would comment on her hairstyle;

Song of Solomon 4:1
….Your hair is like a flock of goats, Going down from Mount Gilead.

They would go to romantic gardens and environments that would revive their love for each other;

Song of Solomon 7:12
Let us get up early to the vineyards; Let us see if the vine has budded, Whether the grape blossoms are open, And whether the pomegranates are in bloom. There I will give you my love.

This is what causes a deep connection, with our partners. Even for those not yet married, there is a pure way of being romantic than trying to use premarital sex for bonding. The latter produces deep emotional wounds that are difficult to overcome. It’s a shallow connection that is sensual and a form of earthly wisdom that is impure.

It’s not your fault that when you try to self-express yourself, you come out dry or too needy. Maybe you grew up in a world void of love. You will cry or fall as a baby and nobody will soothe your feelings. You will come home and no one will ask you if you would like a cup of tea to ease the stress of the day. As a result, you developed this macho behavior, which has done nothing but left you with shallow relationships.

Ezekiel 16:5
No one had the slightest interest in you; no one pitied you or cared for you. On the day you were born, you were unwanted, dumped in a field, and left to die.

The circumstances of your birth and your childhood affect your emotional connections, how you receive or give love, and obviously, how you show up in life psychologically.

What to do?
For those not married yet, try to notice positive changes to your parents or sisters and sincerely drop a compliment. Find good words like nice hairstyle, fantastic, absolutely fetching, etc. If someone blesses you with words like, “You are a good man” that apparently is uplifting. If you are married, this goes obviously to your partner and going the extra mile like helping with house chores. That’s a romantic act for most women. It always does wonders, especially with a bar of chocolate on top.

The matter concludes that being romantic is as important as being spiritual and your Christian knowledge is meant to inform your decision, but as for the next person, it should rather come out as a daybreak and uplifting fragrance.