DELAYED RESPONSE

Occasionally, it’s not that now you have changed but at what point did you repent, or what has happened. Is it at the point someone is now threatening to leave?
When you ignore pleas from your partner to change your ways, you will find one day that it will be too late.

Hebrews 12:16-17
[16]lest there be any fornicator or profane person like Esau, who for one morsel of food sold his birthright.
[17]For you know that afterward, when he wanted to inherit the blessing, he was rejected, for he found no place for repentance, though he sought it diligently with tears.

Maybe they wanted to be included in your plans, help with children’s homework or certain boundaries to be observed, as for you, you shall take these appeals seriously. Take them as someone opening a door for a deeper connection with you. Doors don’t remain open forever.

When that door to their soul has been shut. No matter how much you will cry with tears of blood like Esau, by that time their soul will be abhorred by everything about you to the core. This is the point where someone will just be in for the sake of children or fear of what the community or church will say.

In most cases, you will find someone else. But you shall learn in a hard way that soulmates are irreplaceable. The best you can find is a nice person, but the loss especially caused by your recklessness will haunt you for a long time.

If you are in a marriage, and you have this false sense that you are doing someone a favor to be in a marriage with him/her, it’s time to do a reality check. The more you throw those statements, the more your partner will start to wean themselves from you and find a fallback. You are sending signals to them that one day they will wake up to hear that they are no longer needed.

Learn to value people who connect with you at a higher level because many relationships are material and very much transactional. A heart-to-heart connection is gold. You shall protect it with every resource at your disposal.